How To Effect A Change In Your Personality

Change In Your Personality

Contrary to popular belief, you can improve your personality! We now know that not only can we improve the personality, but we can also develop it in ways we earlier did not understand, or consider possible!

Until quite recently it was believed that personality is permanent. This view prevailed for more than a century; however, the idea that personality is more fluid has gained ground over time. We are now at the stage where we comprehend that we have influence and control over which traits and characteristics we want to cultivate or refine.

What Is Personality?

The personality it the usual pattern of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that make a person unique.

What we mean by saying that someone has a “good personality” is that they are likable, interesting and nice to be with.

Everyone wants to be attractive to others. To that end, having a good personality is essential – probably even more so than good looks.

In reality, nearly 85% of your success and happiness will be determined by how well you interact with others. Ultimately, it is your personality that decides whether people are attracted to, or shy away from you.

While we can simply enhance our looks to a certain extent, we have the capacity to improve our personality as much as we desire. We can build or integrate into our personalities any trait we deem fitting and agreeable.

The following ways will help you improve your personality.

Be A Better Listener

You should cultivate the skill of being an outstanding listener and make every person feel important. There is nothing more attractive than having someone listen to you intently making you feel like you’re the only person in the world.

Read more and expand your interests. The more you read and develop new interests, the more interesting you are to others. When you meet new people it affords you the opportunity to share what you know and to discuss your views with them.

Be A Good Conversationalist

This concerns how much you read and know. Once you have plenty to contribute, learn how to talk about it with others. No one can read about or know everything, so it’s refreshing to learn from others those things about which we don’t have the time to read ourselves. If you happen to be shy, join a group such as Toastmasters that prompts you to talk about what you know.

Carry An Opinion

Nothing is more tiresome than trying to talk to someone who has no opinion on anything. A conversation can go nowhere if you have nothing to expound on. If, however, you have an unnatural point of view or differing opinions, you are more interesting and stimulating to be with socially. A unique outlook expands everyone’s perspective.

Meet New People

Take the effort to meet new people, particularly those unlike you. It does not just expose you to different cultures and alternative ways of doing things, it widens your horizons.

Be Yourself

Trying to be something you’re not is another tiresome thing. Molding yourself for the sake of fitting in, or be accepted, generally backfires. Since each of us is unique, expressing that uniqueness is what makes us interesting. Trying to be a carbon copy of someone else not only fails but displays a lack of authenticity.

Have A Positive Outlook And Attitude

Who desires to be near people who are negative, complain a lot, or have nothing good to say? Actually, most of us run when we see them coming. Rather, be the kind of upbeat person who lights up a room with your energy when you enter it. Do it by looking for the best in people and things. Wear a warm smile, spread good cheer, and enliven others with your presence.

Be Fun And View The Humorous Side Of Life

Everyone reveals the humor company of someone who makes them laugh or smile, so watch for the humorous, quirky side in a situation – there always is one. Comic relief is a much welcome and required diversion at times. When you can add fun and lightheartedness to an otherwise dull or gloomy setting, others will naturally be attracted to you, not to say gratefully.

Be Supportive Of Others

Being supportive is perhaps the most endearing quality you can include in your personality. Just as you yourself welcome it, be the support for others when they require it. We all love a cheerleader in our corner; someone who is motivating believes in us and helps pick us up when we’re down.

Have Integrity And Treat People With Respect

Being honest and true to your word will bring you the respect, admiration, and gratitude of others. Nothing improves a person’s personality more than integrity and respect – respect for others, as well as respect for yourself.


We humans have the power and ability to mold our personalities however we wish. When we develop ourselves to our full potential, we contribute to our own, as well as the happiness of others.

On a related note, carrying a pleasant, engaging personality is hugely related to Emotional Intelligence (EI or EQ). Those of us having high EI invariably have acclaimed personalities.


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